Written by Rachel Quigley
God made us out of relationship for relationship. In our search for wholeness, we can’t live whole alone. Relationships are essential for wholeness. In the beginning, Adam had a relationship with God and Adam had purpose. Yet God said that’s not enough. Adam needed another to journey with him.
We need others in our lives. We were created to need others in our lives and for healthy relationship. We are needy individuals, and sometimes we don’t like to admit that simple truth.
ingredients. I’d be out of sugar, or vanilla, or one egg short. Mom would say, Run next door to Mrs. Rodger’s house and ask to borrow what you need. When I was all done baking, Mom would again say, "Take some cookies over to Mrs. Rodgers and share with her since she shared with you." With my cookies on a pretty plate, I would head over to Mrs. Rodgers. This was part of the process and a true gift of relationship. I loved baking, and Mrs. Rodgers enjoyed the company of the little girl next door.
Nowadays, if we bake and find ourselves short an egg, sugar, or flour, we don’t typically go next door but instead we Instacart, run to the store, or text someone to stop by the store on their way home. We’ve lost that interdependent community of needing and connecting with those near us --- our community.
God created us for relationships but in today’s world we find ourselves alone and not connected in healthy, life-giving community circles and friendships.
Author Jennie Allen shares some great ideas and insights in building community in her book, Find Your People. Below are some ideas she shares:
Proximity – Who is around you?
Transparency – Have an open door
Everyone doesn’t need to know our business and we don’t need to share everything however we can practice healthy levels of transparency and live in authentic relationship with others.
Accountability – Iron Sharpens Iron
Shared Purpose—Connecting together creates bonds
Consistency– Choose to stay when days are difficult
Keep short accounts.
Be quick to apologize.
Aim to be a peacemaker.
Consistency is clocking hours together over years. Those kinds of relationships and communities bring great rewards. Those relationships, though difficult at times, produce life giving, life journeying friends and community.